It is necessary to understand the fundamental nature of a human being, that he is: weak, hasty, ignorant and unjust. He is also unappreciative, anxious, obstructive, fearful, mean, stingy, and miserly. He loves to argue, arrogantly ignores and turns away from his Lord in wealth and health, and despairs when in poverty and sickness. He also rejoices and boasts when in wealth to other slaves of Allah. He is never fed up or bored of asking for wealth.
These characteristics are always present in one; however, they increase or decrease, surface or fade away according to the upbringing and the amendment of the spirit.
He is also afflicted with hardships, works industriously, and struggles diligently all his life.
Allah the Most High says:
"Man is ever hasty." [Israa', 11]
"Mankind was created weak." [an-Nisaa', 28]
"Man was created of haste (i.e., impatience)." [al-Anbiyaa', 37]
"But man [undertook to] bear it. Indeed, he was unjust and ignorant." [al-Ahzab, 72]
"Indeed man, to his Lord, is ungrateful." [al-Aadiyat, 6]
"Indeed, mankind was created anxious. When evil touches him, impatient, and when good touches him, withholding [of it]." [al-Ma`arij, 19]
Anxiety is strength of impatience in states of affliction, and strength of attachment to this world and holding onto it in states of blessings, fearing it will diminish and slip away.
"Say: 'If you possessed the depositories of the mercy of my Lord, then you would withhold out of fear of spending.' And ever has man been stingy." [al-Israa', 100]
"Indeed, mankind is [generally] most unjust and ungrateful." [Ibrahim, 34]
"But man has ever been, most of anything, [prone to] dispute." [al-Kahf, 54]
"And when We bestow favor upon man [i.e. the disbeliever], he turns away and distances himself; and when even touches him, he is ever despairing." [al-Israa', 83]
"No! [But] indeed, man transgresses because he sees himself sufficient." [al-Alaq, 6-7]
"And if We give man a taste of mercy from Us and then We withdraw from Us and then We withdraw it from him, indeed, he is despairing and ungrateful." [Hud, 9-11]
"Man is not weary of supplication for good [things], but if evil touches him, he is hopeless and despairing." [Fussilat, 49]
That is, man does not get tired of supplicating for good, i.e. wealth and health.
"Indeed, We created man from a sperm-drop mixture." [al-Insan, 2]
"O mankind, indeed you are laboring toward your Lord with [great] exertion (i.e. striving throughout your life until you meet your Lord, hastening toward death)." [al-Inshiqaq, 6]
Since these characteristics are in one's fundamental nature, then those who overcame them and progressed ought to guide the ones that are constrained and imprisoned by them, for they are in need of mercy, advice and rectification. "You will not believe until you love for your brother what you love for yourself."
"So by mercy from Allah [O Muhammad], you were lenient with them. And if you had been rude [in speech] and harsh in heart, they would have disbanded from about you. So pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then rely upon Allah." [Aal `Imran, 159]
Instead of living in hopes and fantasies, it is better that you limit your mission and your hopes in this life, write them with your hand and hang the paper in front of your office desk so that you read it and return to it often.
I will strive seeking the pleasure of Allah first and foremost
I will remember sincerity at all times
I will memorize the Book of Allah in full
I will increase my knowledge of the Shari`ah
I will focus upon refinement of the heart and its cure
I will develop my physical strength
I will develop my emotional strength
I will go to the masjid shortly before the Call to Prayer
I will give charity every day
I will seek reward from Allah for expenditures on my family
I will seek reward from Allah for all my actions
I will achieve my success at home first
I will not bargain and compromise with my Deen
I will consult others
I will defend those who are absent
I will listen to both sides before passing a judgment
I will imagine myself to be in the position of the person I am talking to, so I can feel and share his feelings.
I will not take revenge for my own sake
I will not get angry for my own sake
I will not see for myself a right over others
I will always be positive and constructive
I will plan and write down my work for tomorrow
I will listen twice as much as I speak
I will desire success for others
I will beware of errors and benefit from them when I fall in them
I will strive to be orderly and well-organized as a person and in my work
I will be joyful, humorous and smiling
I will concentrate all my abilities and efforts on the task in my hands
I will develop my skills
I will maintain priorities in all my duties
I will not take responsibility for what I am not responsible for, and I will not squander what I am responsible for
I will not blame the situation
I will focus on what concerns me and concentrate on my circle of influence
My language: I will try, I will make effort, I will learn, it is not impossible, there is nothing to stop me (if Allah wills)
I know that what befalls me could not have missed me and what missed me could not have befallen me; I will take my soul to account and be open with it; I view that retracting from error is from one's self-confidence and will work on correcting my errors
I do not imagine that anyone is safe from harms of others, so I will save my energy and time from busying with others and their talks (when it doesn't benefit me), and their talk will not matter to me except what is beneficial or what deals with correction of shortcomings.
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