Bismillaahi walhamdulillaahi
wassalaatu wassalaamu ‘Alaa rasoolillaahi
Assalaamu `Alaykum wa
Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuh
Question:
A sister has
asked: AOA I want help in a very serious matter? plz can u tell me about Sunni and Shiya.can they marry ? if a girl
is sunni and a boy is shiya....
plz tell me about this..I
shall be very thankful 2 u. Thanks Allah Hafiz.
My answer:
According to the teachings of
the Qur-aan and Sunnah, a
person should decide about marrying another person on the basis of his or her
Deen. Using Deen as the
criterion of marriage means that the person should have the correct Islamic ‘aqeedah and the right Islamic paradigm. In addition, his
or her actions and lifestyle should reflect that ‘aqeedah
and paradigm. For that purpose, appellations such as Sunni, Shia, Salafi, Sufi, etc. are
useless. Our decisions should not be based upon the names people have given
to groups but on an individual’s personal faith in, attitude towards and
practice of the deen.
From that perspective, one
should marry a person:
1. Who believes in the
following:
Allaah Subhaanahu
Wa Ta’aala as the One and
Only Lord, Master, Creator, Worthy of worship, Ruler, Sovereign, Protector
and Provider -- Who is Infinite and Absolute in every attribute He has mentioned
about Himself; to Whom we must submit readily and willingly in slave-like
obedience in all aspects and matters of life, throughout our life; Who is the
only One that can listen to and respond to our du’aas
(ad’iyah) and provide us help in supernatural ways;
and Who is so Majestic and Exalted that even those who are closest to Him
from His creations can never demand something from Him or intercede for
someone without His permission and pleasure. Hence we must rely only on Him,
repose our trust in Him and seek only His pleasure.
Muhammad Sall-Allaahu 'Alayhi Wa Sallam is His last Prophet
and the last Messenger who taught us and demonstrated for us the proper and
balanced way of obeying Allaah SAAWS in our life
and whose Sunnah is the perfect model for us to
emulate in obedience to our Lord Allaah SWT. Other
than the Prophet himself, there is absolutely no one who is perfect enough to
be right all the time and whose words or actions could be followed on his own
authority, without strong support form the Qur-aan
and Sunnah.
The Holy Qur-aan is the final guidance from Allaah
and is perfectly preserved in its complete and total form and perfectly
relevant to all matters of human life in all ages until the Day of Judgment.
All the personal and collective matters of our life must be conducted
according to the guidance of the Qur-aan.
Angels are real
creatures of Allaah SWT who are assigned different
roles by Him. They carry out their assignments precisely, exactly and without
compromising or making any mistake.
We will be raised
and held accountable for our worldly life on the Day of Judgment and rewarded
and punished according to our performance in this world. Only the personal
faith that exists in the depths of our psyche (heart), and the right actions
performed with sincerity and pure intentions for Allaah’s
pleasure will avail us that day. While living in this world we must prepare
for the life Hereafter instead of worrying too much about this temporary
life.
2. Whose religious
paradigm is the following:
Islam is a complete
way of life that is designed to develop personal excellence and superb
behaviour, ethics and dealings in individuals and to establish the most
superb global community that is characterized by peace, justice, graciousness,
care and loving environment. The five pillars of Islam provide us the
structure and foundations to help us attain our individual and collective
excellence, which is built upon that structure and foundations by practising
the rest of the deen. We must continuously work
hard on a daily basis in an organized and planned manner for attaining
personal excellence and as well as establishing the Islamic society of
excellence for the pleasure of Allaah and the
success in the Hereafter.
If a person testifies to have
the abovementioned faith and his religious outlook corresponds to the
abovementioned paradigm, and his lifestyle testifies to the truth of these
assertions, that is the person with deen and that
is the best person to get married to. Although I have used 'his', but the
same applies to 'her' as well.
Wassalaam,
Ayub A. Hamid
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