common interests. After the passion settles down, it's common
to realize that you have few interests in common. But don't
minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you
both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples
develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of
your own; this will make you more interesting to your partner and
prevent you from appearing too dependent.
6. Say "I love you" and "Insha-Allah, May you have a good day" every morning. This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
7. Say "Assalaamu alaiykum "- May you be with peace: every night, regardless of how you feel. This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
8. Do a "weather" check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you're more in synchrony when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
9. Be happy to be seen with your partner. Happy couples are pleased to be seen together.
Even if these actions don't come naturally, happy couples stick with them until they do become a part of their relationship. They know that it takes 30 days for a change in behavior to become a habit, and a minimum of six months for a habit to become a way of life and love.